My boyfriend doesn’t understand dating, How can I help him out?
October 10th, 2009 Posted by: admin
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and he does not understand dating. His idea of a night for just us consists of fastfood (not that I mind that necessarily, if we go out and eat together) but he said we should get food seperatly and then meet back at my house. He has no concept of a night out for the two of us. What should I do or say to get the concept into his head?
By: rrc7709
By: rrc7709
Tags: Dating Help, Fastfood, Seperatly
October 13th, 2009 at 00:13
Suggest that you two go to a fancy dinner or something sometime. As a guy, I love fast food as much as the next guy. But when it comes to my girlfriend, I try to avoid that. I love to take her out to a nice dinner.
October 13th, 2009 at 16:36
forget your boyfriend, go to extra classes and learn German, for the future
October 16th, 2009 at 13:17
tell him about it…not us, itll get worse if you wait.
October 17th, 2009 at 19:27
YOU set up the next date
October 17th, 2009 at 22:08
I guess tell em’ that it’s a time where you two go out and have fun getting to know one another even more and just have a night where you two can enjoy yourselves.
October 19th, 2009 at 23:37
just try to break it to him nicely ur not getting certain things u want from that realationship, lik a romantic evening. u sort of hav to train him (dn’t make him feel small)
October 20th, 2009 at 12:55
Actually, he’s the one that gets it. You are the one who need to get the concept into your head.
You have spent two years making the rules clear to him… you are willing to be his girlfriend even if he doesn’t date you appropriately. He doesn’t need to court you with flowers or romantic places, he already got you without doing these. So why would he think he suddenly needs to be romantic, adventurous, or fun in his dating if you already taught him not to be?
If you told him after the first date, that next time you expect some place decent for any possibility of second date, he’d learn mighty quickly. However, now it is too late to try that. He won’t get it and you’ll just (rightly) come across as flip-flopping.
My advice would be to get some friends and start going out on some group activities and bring him along. Try movies, mini-golf, wine tasting, concert, dinners, etc., etc. Then, subtly try encouraging dates to similar places. Don’t expect it to be a quick process - you have two years of bad habits to wear off.